Issac and Rebecca

Are match-makers biblical? Yes. You can read a beautiful love story in Genesis 24, and there is a match-maker in there. Those who do this job should study Abraham´s servant closely.
I remember one time after a church meeting. The minister for that morning was somebody from abroad. The meeting ended and I just sat there. Letting everything sink in. It had been a very special meeting...I didn´t want to leave. Suddenly this minister came and sat by me!
My heart started to beat fast. I opened my ears to hear a word of God. I expected a "thus says the Lord..." type of thing. To my total surprise the man said: "I have a disciple, he is a very special man and I am looking for a wife for him."
At that time my heart was totally closed to the idea of marriage. I wanted to serve God. I was just waiting for my kids to grow up and then I would be free to serve God a 100% of the time. Marriage???
My face expression was clear. The man apologized, stood up and left. Poor pastor! I could at least have said something like "I am sure he is a neat guy, and I feel most honored by your setting your eyes upon me. But marriage is just not in my plans."
Oh, well, by now I am sure the guy has gotten a bride, and I am sure he is a special man.
"Bea, if the pastor had been slower in the approach would it have made any difference?" Perhaps, but I strongly doubt it, because I had decided that I didn´t want to remarry.

This story makes me think of two things. One, I strongly disagree with people who make you think that there is only ONE person meant for you, and if this person marries someone else...well, you are doomed. That is totally false. I am sure that guy has a loving wife. That pastor saw something that made him think that we could be a good pair...but I said no. No panic. No blame. The pastor didn´t push the issue with a: "God showed me this guy was for you!" or anything of the sort. Keep this in mind.
I must admit that it still makes me feel good, to know that I was considered in the list of possibilities for that special guy- whoever he is, because I didn´t even get his name! ja ja ja

The other thing I think about is the fact that adults in church have become irresponsible. I remember my reaction when a young girl from church asked me to be her match maker. "Sorry, I can´t, too big a responsability!" Those were my words. This beautiful girl has stumbled with wrong relationships with several guys. I am responsible for that. I could have said yes. And done exactly what Abraham´s servant did. He prayed.
I think it is time we start to go back to basic principles, to protect our kids. Yes, many will tell us to move off...their choice. But many are willing to be protected and guided. Where are the adults to cover them?
Our modern times!!! Such a mess!!!! A neighbor says: "My son is over 21 and has had his vaccines, he can do whatever he wants" Do we really believe that? As if blowing certain number of candles makes this guy a man!!!

So the pastor went empty handed to his disciple, but he left a seed in my heart. The though of marriage...God had asked me long before to consider the matter. I had always pushed it aside.
But this special time it was different. A man of God had set his eyes upon me..for his beloved disciple!!!
wow... it did leave a seed.